Brian Sladden investigates infidelity and says there are certain red flags that should make a partner worry
Love rats had best beware – a private investigator is telling people how they can spot a cheat.
Brian Sladden Senior Detective at Watkins Ward boasts: “I’ve caught cheats, love rats, whatever you wish to call them. It’s my speciality.”
A recent client called ‘Gill’ suspected her husband was cheating on her and sought Brian’s firm Watkins Ward Group Investigation’s services to prove it.
“It didn’t take us long to catch him out,” Brian said. “When we did it was a simple case of presenting the evidence to her.
She explained to us what it was like when she discovered her husband had been having an affair behind her back.
“Finding out your spouse has betrayed you is and will be one of the darkest moments of your life.”
Gill said: “I didn’t want to believe it. It’s just a fog of total disbelief.”
“I put some guilt on myself. It’s so painful. I just wanted to believe nothing was happening, until I just had to.”
“It was life shattering for me, absolutely life shattering. I felt worthless and betrayed.”
It was eight years into their marriage that ‘Gill’ began to notice changes.
“He was so clearly distant, all of a sudden he just wasn’t there,” she said. “He became vacant.”
“There was very little conversation and he found many excuses to be away from me. He basically found lots of places to go during the day.”
“It can be a great thing to get rid of someone so toxic in your life that you’re living with.”
With her relationship dissolving, ‘Gill’ suspected that her partner had found someone else. But how?
Brian believes that “if your gut is telling you something is not right, 99% of the time it’s right”.
However, Brian also says that there are many red flags to watch out for when the possibility of infidelity is on the table.
First and foremost, the physical changes, he says, are often the most obvious.
“Caring all the time about the time they dress, the spouse is coming home late, they are taking their phone with them everywhere, the code is locked or different, face down or on silent – these are all major warning signs.”
Smartphones are often a key cornerstone in Watkins Ward Group’s Investigations.
Unfaithful individuals are renowned for becoming overly protective over them, sleeping with them underneath their pillows, making sure nobody else can see their phone to hide messages, Snapchats, WhatsApp or even dating apps.
All of these clues would suggest that they are intent on finding something else outside of their current marriage or relationship.
Detailing their process, Sladden said: “We look at things such as professional online forensic analysis and detailed background profiling, covert surveillance and intelligence gathering, OSINT and other investigative methods.
“There’s a lot of different ways that people can get caught. And they do get caught.”
Brian Sladden is a Senior Detective at Watkins Ward Group Investigations